I am not the kind of person to commit. I met my boyfriend online last October through yahoo and we instantly connected. I’m a very mature 23 year old and he is a professional 28 year old. We both have aspirations and like dreams. We enjoy the same hobbies and he tells me he loves me all the time and I would give him the world if I could. We moved in together less than two months after we began dating. We have been together for 8 months and I recently began spending a little more time with friends. Not going out and doing stupid things. Just chatting with the girls for a few hours. He is a bit insecure and he gets a bit angry. I know he has trust issues because of a previous relationship that was just filled with lies. I try to do the best I can to let him know that I love him but recently he mentioned living separately for a little while. Now I have moved back with my parents and we see each other a few times a week and talk and text often. I don’t know if the fact that I was hanging out with friends a bit more made him think I am getting sick of him or if there is some type of stress issue involved. He has been having problems with his job and know he has some medical issues he is dealing with. I personally do not think living separately is going to fix anything but I love him and there is no doubt that he loves me but I need a man’s perspective on this. We are very mature, professional adults and I was completely against marraige until I met this man. Someone tell me that this is going to help or at least give me a reason why he thinks this will help us cherish the time we spend together more.
Will living separately for a bit help a relationship?
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Liam O
June 7, 2010 at 1:57 pm
My x wife and I are back together after 13 years apart. She knew 2 people and I knew lots in that time. But we are getting married again soon.
ROCK
June 7, 2010 at 2:33 pm
It may be that he is growing tired of the relationship and doesn’t have the courage to express that. It also may be the way he resolves any stressful relationship and if that is so, I would be warry of marriage to this individual. You might just be letting yourself in for a lot of hurt. If he loves you as much as you think he does, he should be willing tyo discuss this with you.
If he is unwilling to sit down and talk to you about this possible trust issue, then I would seriously think of moving on.